Free grief reflection: Grief waves

Grief often comes in waves. Some days feel steadier, and then a song, a date or a familiar place brings it rushing back. This reflection helps you notice what tends to bring grief up, what helps when it does, and how to plan gently for the harder days ahead.

START THE REFLECTION

HOW IT WORKS

01Notice what tends to bring waves of grief
02Name what helps you get through a wave, and what you need from others
03Plan gently for anniversaries, holidays and other hard dates

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There’s no right way to grieve. Waves of grief are a normal part of loss, not a sign you’re going backwards. Take this at your own pace and skip anything that doesn’t fit. If grief brings thoughts of not wanting to be here, call or text 988 any time.

01 · What brings the waves

Notice what tends to bring grief up.

Tick any that fit, and add your own.

Anniversaries or birthdays Holidays and family gatherings Places, songs, smells or photos Milestones they’re not here for Quiet times, like evenings or weekends Seeing others with what you’ve lost Big decisions or changes Something else

Waves I’ve noticed lately

02 · When a wave comes

Getting through, rather than getting over.

INotice itName what’s happening without judging it. “This is a wave of grief. It makes sense, and it will ease.” What do you notice in your body and thoughts?

IIWhat helps me ride it out

Tick what has helped before, or what you’d like to try.

Letting myself cry or feel it Talking to someone I trust Getting outside or moving my body Writing, or talking to the person I lost Rest, or slowing down for the day A small ritual of remembrance

Anything else that helps

IIIWhat I need from othersPeople often want to help but don’t know how. What would help most: company, practical help, saying their name, space?

03 · Planning for hard dates

Hard days are easier with a plan.

Anniversaries, birthdays and holidays can bring strong waves, including the days leading up to them. A little planning can help.

Date or occasionWhat might be hardWhat might help, and who I’ll reach out to

04 · Carrying the connection

Love doesn’t end with loss.

Ways I want to remember and honour what I’ve lost One small, kind thing I can do for myself this week

Informed by grief research, including the dual process model of coping with bereavement (Stroebe & Schut, 1999, Death Studies), which describes healthy grieving as moving between facing the loss and taking breaks from it. This reflection is educational and not a substitute for professional care.

Please note: This resource is for education and self-reflection only. It is not a diagnostic tool and can’t tell you whether you have a mental health condition. It is not a substitute for assessment, therapy or other care from a qualified professional, and using it does not create a therapeutic relationship with Core Psychology. If you’re in crisis, call or text 988 any time, or call 911.

You don’t have to carry this alone.

If grief still feels as heavy as it did at the start, or it’s making daily life hard, talking with a grief counsellor can help. You’re welcome to bring this reflection to your first session.

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